Reddit users rallied to support a woman who claims she was booted from her brother’s wedding after she spent thousands of dollars as a bridesmaid.
User “trashgirlfriend” posted in Reddit’s “Am I the A–hole” (AITA) subreddit on July 4, asking others, “WIBTA if I go on vacation instead of my brother’s wedding?”
“WIBTA” stands for “Would I be the a–hole” and is used when a person has not yet committed the action that might deem them an “a–hole.”
The wedding planning process took two years, she said — and she’s been involved the entire time.
“Just a few weeks ago, I managed to save up to buy the $800 bridesmaid dress. Overall, in the last two years between group outings to parties, dinners, lunches, clothes, etc., I spent thousands of dollars,” she wrote in her post.
“Sarah recently got close with her brother’s wife Becky (30f),” wrote the Reddit poster. “Last week she dropped the ball on me that she no longer wants me to be a bridesmaid and she would prefer if Becky would take my place.”
“I said that would be fine, but they would have to pay me the $800 for it. Sarah said that Becky couldn’t afford and I should just be nice and let her use it — and said that I could keep it after the wedding,” the Redditor wrote.
At that point, trashgirlfriend she said refused to hand over the dress — and “after some bickering back and forth I just ended up taking it and leaving.”
Trashgirlfriend said she was able to return the dress for a full refund — and then told her brother and his wife-to-be that she would not be attending their wedding, as they had been “extremely disrespectful” to her.
“Today my coworker says she has an extra round-trip plane ticket to go to Miami that she’ll sell to me for half price, plus I would have to pay for half the hotel and I can go hang out with her in Florida,” she wrote. “The only downside is that I’ll be in Florida for the week of my brother’s wedding.”
“A 26-year-old assistant flower girl? Really? How insulting,” wrote Reddit user “Prudent_Plan_6451” in one of the top comments.
“OP, one of the nice things about declining an invitation is that you need not give a gift. A card of congratulations is all etiquette requires. And I think you’ve already overspent (both literally and emotionally) on this wedding,” wrote Prudent_Plan_6451.
In an updated post, trashgirlfriend said that even her mother was supportive of her decision to skip her brother’s wedding in lieu of a vacation.
“So unfortunately since Reddit is awful at keeping secrets, Becky saw the post on TikTok, so she obviously let the cat out of the bag,” wrote trashgirlfriend in a July 6 post on AITA.
Trashgirlfriend said her mother — her only living parent — paid for her hotel stay in Miami.
“I think it’s safe to assume whose side she’s low-key on,” she wrote.
“Sometimes not saying a thing but holding your head up high and showing your loyalty is the classiest way to respond.”
Fox News Digital reached out to trashgirlfriend for additional comment.
Dr. Michele Borba, a parenting expert and educational psychologist based in Palm Springs, California, told Fox News Digital in an emailed comment, “Interesting dilemma. I’m always a ‘family first’ person: While I can see that the sister was upset, her love and loyalty go to brother.”